Why do some people sabotage their own relationships?
Relationship sabotage isn’t always intentional. People with avoidant attachment often create distance without realizing why—canceling plans, withholding emotions, or focusing on a partner’s flaws to justify pulling away. This behavior is rooted in past experiences where emotional closeness felt unsafe or unreliable. If caregivers were distant, critical, or emotionally inconsistent, you may have learned to […]
Can attachment styles be changed?
Many people believe attachment styles are fixed, but research shows they can evolve with awareness and effort. If you have an avoidant attachment style, change begins by recognizing the beliefs and behaviors that keep you distant. Start by identifying your triggers—what makes you withdraw or feel suffocated in relationships? Understanding these reactions can help you […]
“I don’t need anyone” – is this truly independence, or fear?
Independence is a valuable trait, but when it becomes a defense against emotional connection, it may be rooted in fear rather than self-sufficiency. Many people with avoidant attachment pride themselves on their ability to be self-reliant, often believing that needing others is a sign of weakness. However, true strength lies in balancing independence with the […]
Are you in love with someone who fears commitment?
Loving someone with an avoidant attachment style can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. They may seem deeply invested one moment, only to pull away the next. This push-pull dynamic isn’t about lack of love it’s about a fear of vulnerability. People with avoidant attachment often equate closeness with losing control or being hurt, leading them […]
Does emotional intimacy make you uncomfortable?
If emotional closeness makes you feel uneasy, you’re not alone. Many people with avoidant attachment struggle to let their guard down, fearing that intimacy will lead to disappointment, rejection, or loss of independence. However, true connection isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about learning how to coexist in a way that feels safe and fulfilling. Rebuilding trust […]
You crave connection, yet distance yourself from love—why?
It’s a frustrating contradiction—you want love, yet the moment it starts to feel real, you withdraw. Avoidant attachment makes emotional closeness feel risky, triggering a fight-or-flight response whenever vulnerability arises. This isn’t because you don’t care—it’s because your nervous system associate’s intimacy with loss of control or rejection. Growing up, you may have learned that […]
Why do you push people away when they get too close?
Have you ever found yourself losing interest in someone just as the relationship deepens? Do you suddenly feel suffocated, even when nothing is objectively wrong? Avoidant attachment can make emotional closeness feel scary. This can trigger a need to pull away. This pattern often comes from early life experiences. When vulnerability faced rejection, neglect, or […]
What if your fear of commitment isn’t a choice, but a hidden pattern from childhood?
Fear of commitment isn’t always a choice. It often comes from profound childhood experiences. You may have developed avoidant attachment if your feelings were ignored as a child. This can happen if you focus too much on independence or have caregivers who aren’t always loving. This attachment style can make closeness feel stifling. So, you […]
Building Emotional Intelligence to Tackle Avoidant Attachment
Strategies from Avoidant Attachment Recovery Solutions In the essential guide Avoidant Attachment Recovery Solutions, Dr. Antonio Anglero touches upon a crucial component of improving relationships for those with avoidant attachment: enhancing emotional intelligence. The book highlights why emotional intelligence is vital for anyone struggling with this attachment style and provides transparent, actionable steps to help […]
The A.R.C. Method: A Transformative Approach from Avoidant Attachment Recovery Solutions
In Avoidant Attachment Recovery Solutions, Dr. Antonio Anglero introduces a practical and effective approach to overcoming avoidant attachment — the A.R.C. method. This method, which stands for Acknowledge, Reflect, and Commit, is designed to help individuals understand their fears, learn from their behaviors, and make conscious changes to foster closer, more rewarding relationships.Understanding the A.R.C. […]