Loving someone with an avoidant attachment style can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. They may seem deeply invested one moment, only to pull away the next. This push-pull dynamic isn’t about lack of love it’s about a fear of vulnerability. People with avoidant attachment often equate closeness with losing control or being hurt, leading them to withdraw when emotions become too intense. If you’re in a relationship with someone who struggles with commitment, patience and understanding are key.
Avoid taking their distancing personally this behavior is more about their past than their feelings for you. Instead of pressuring them to open up, create an environment where they feel safe to do so at their own pace. Encourage honest conversations about fears and needs while setting healthy boundaries for yourself. With time, mutual understanding, and emotional security, a relationship with an avoidant partner can grow in depth and trust.